I’ve been pursuing coach training as a way to help clients with some of the things that they bump up against when they embark on changing habits and improving their health.
Things like:
-Sabotaging behaviour
-Resistance to doing the things they know make them feel better
-Nasty self-talk and buying into their stories.
For example; ‘I can only be happy once I’m a size 12, 10, 8…’’ ‘, ‘It will only work if it’s punishing and restrictive and hard” or another great one ‘’Who am I to do nice things for myself…’’
During my training, we were warned against doing something called stealth coaching.
This is basically unsolicited coaching and it mostly happens with close friends and family, in other words; coaching on the sly.
Apparently I’ve been doing it a little 🙈
A few Fridays ago, on a walk with my kids, we were chatting about our week.
After going on about the week’s trials and tribulations, Kiki asked me a great coach-like question.
‘’How can you make next week better?’’
Stealth coaching payback.
Here’s what I came up with:
Could I practice falling in love with what I already have right now?
My family, my friends, my changing 50-something year old body exactly the way it is…
Could I slow down and savour my delicious food, really listen to the person talking to me, watch the sunset right to the end…?
I have to confess, I’ve had to come back to it many times.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the vortex of incessant thoughts. I go days where I get sucked into my drama and my stories.
My monkey brain seems programmed to be restless, wanting the next thing, challenge, goal, pleasure, more, more, more…
Is the purpose of life really to get more-of? All of this was inspired by THIS GREAT BOOK.
New mantra: Let me remember to pay attention to the ordinary, not just the extraordinary.
What are you taking for granted?
Share this with someone you love that deserves a little peace.
Cheers,